Why Do Couples Argue?
In a marriage, two persons from a different upbringing, different beliefs and different background are brought together. Sometimes, disagreement arises due to different views on a certain matter.
When a couple argue or quarrel, they are usually overwhelmed by their emotion and they will not consider the consequences or outcomes. As a result, hurtful words are spurted out. This will definitely affect the relationship of the couple. Worse still, when the innocent children are brought into the picture of arguement.
Most of the time, “sorry” is the only word that needs to be said. However, due to self dignity, neither of the party wants to give in. My mum always tells me, “when you use an egg to hit another egg, both of you will lose”. We cannot mould the other party to be what we want, however, we can adjust ourselves to accomodate. If we can do that, many arguement could have been avoided. I guess it is important that a couple should have mutual understanding.
When problems arise, try to solve it together. Always put yourself in the other party’s shoe , then you will understand how the other party feels. Besides that, try to look at the matter with a different prospect. Sometimes, you may find that the matter both of you are arguing may not worth to be argued at all!
When a couple argue or quarrel, they are usually overwhelmed by their emotion and they will not consider the consequences or outcomes. As a result, hurtful words are spurted out. This will definitely affect the relationship of the couple. Worse still, when the innocent children are brought into the picture of arguement.
Most of the time, “sorry” is the only word that needs to be said. However, due to self dignity, neither of the party wants to give in. My mum always tells me, “when you use an egg to hit another egg, both of you will lose”. We cannot mould the other party to be what we want, however, we can adjust ourselves to accomodate. If we can do that, many arguement could have been avoided. I guess it is important that a couple should have mutual understanding.
When problems arise, try to solve it together. Always put yourself in the other party’s shoe , then you will understand how the other party feels. Besides that, try to look at the matter with a different prospect. Sometimes, you may find that the matter both of you are arguing may not worth to be argued at all!
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